<div>Gaslighting is doing things with plausible denialability and making the target look and feel crazy, paranoid, unhinged when they complain. It is very common in abusuve relationships. And the victim suffers both from the predator and by the "not don't to be involved" others.</div><div><br></div><div>It comes from the play "Gas Light" later made into a classic movie.</div><div><br></div><div><a href="https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting">https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting</a><br></div><div><br></div><div><br><div class="gmail_quote"><div>On Fri, Oct 27, 2017 at 12:15 PM Wes Benedict <<a href="mailto:wes.benedict@lp.org">wes.benedict@lp.org</a>> wrote:<br></div><blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0 0 0 .8ex;border-left:1px #ccc solid;padding-left:1ex">
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<p>Could you give us an official definition of "gas lighting?"</p>
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</div><div text="#000000" bgcolor="#FFFFFF"><div class="m_-2282741332144706854moz-cite-prefix">On 10/27/2017 2:12 PM, Wes Benedict
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<p>Caryn Ann, I had someone complain to me today that you are a
bully. <br>
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<p>For the record, I don't feel that you have been a bully to me.
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<p>I will not name the current or former board members that I feel
have gas lighted and bullied me over the years, not to mention
the hundreds of libertarians that bully other libertarians daily
on facebook.<br>
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<p>And of course I'm not going to list the people I have
personally bullied and gas lighted. <br>
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Libertarian National Committee, Inc.
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<div class="m_-2282741332144706854moz-cite-prefix">On 10/27/2017 2:01 PM, Caryn Ann
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<div>Wes. There are fantastic people in</div>
<div>Florida.</div>
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<div>But this seems to give all the power to a few bullies and
no succor to their victims who feel alone. And bullies love
that.</div>
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<div>Are they not our brethren?</div>
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<div>ive been gaslighted. And I know more harm comes from the
silence of people who know what is happening. We must not
treat the bullieD as expendable in order to not give attention
to the bullies. We would not want that if it were us.</div>
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<div>-Caryn Ann</div>
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<div>On Fri, Oct 27, 2017 at 11:56 AM Wes Benedict <<a href="mailto:wes.benedict@lp.org" target="_blank">wes.benedict@lp.org</a>>
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<blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0 0 0 .8ex;border-left:1px #ccc solid;padding-left:1ex">The
amount of great things happening with Libertarians is too
long to<br>
list here.<br>
<br>
Just this afternoon the Vice Chair from Florida dropped by
after having<br>
attended the OAI event yesterday.<br>
<br>
I was also very pleased to see former national chair, and
one of our<br>
newest elected Libertarians, Jim T. attend the OAI event
and visit the<br>
office.<br>
<br>
One of our newest staff members has been doing a fantastic
job--Jess<br>
from Florida.<br>
<br>
I could sit here all day and write about 50 different
exciting things<br>
happening in Florida, but obviously I don't want to take
the time to do<br>
that right now.<br>
<br>
Spending lots of time focusing on a few bad things just
gives oxygen to<br>
the bad elements. It's better not to even mention them.<br>
<br>
I'm also sometimes concerned that attacking some people
teetering<br>
between libertarianism and other ideologies, may have the
effect of<br>
alienating them and pushing them further away from
embracing that which<br>
is good, and rejecting that which is bad.<br>
<br>
I was once a pro-war, pro-surveillance, pro-police state,<br>
anti-immigration, bad guy. Early in my transition to
becoming a<br>
libertarian, had I interacted with more mean nitpicking
purist<br>
libertarian activists (not all purists are mean nitpickers
by the way),<br>
or had I interacted with more mean nitpicking moderate
libertarian<br>
activists (not all moderates are mean nitpickers by the
way) I might<br>
have backed away from the Libertarian Party and
re-embraced the<br>
Republican Party along with all of its bad policies--I'm
often a team<br>
player.<br>
<br>
Let's be nice to each other. When one of our activists
falls short,<br>
let's not rush to pile on. Let our first instinct be to
rally around<br>
them and support them. Let our second instinct be to rally
around them<br>
and support them again. Let our third instinct be to rally
around them<br>
and support them again. And let our fourth instinct be to
ignore them.<br>
<br>
There was once a guy seeking the Libertarian nomination
for a high<br>
office in Texas. He would have been incredibly
embarrassing and damaging<br>
to our brand if he had gotten a lot of publicity. I never
publicized the<br>
person. Almost nobody ever found out about him. I treated
his<br>
application for nomination equally to others--it was
accepted as was<br>
supposed to be and processed. He didn't show up to the
convention. He<br>
didn't get nominated. His name never reached the news or
the email<br>
groups. I did not go on a bunch of email groups and start
writing about<br>
how this guy was going to embarrass us if others found out
about him. I<br>
shall not say his name here either.<br>
<br>
Be advised I'm not always the best example of what I'd
like to see more of.<br>
<br>
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Wes Benedict, Executive Director<br>
Libertarian National Committee, Inc.<br>
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