[Lnc-business] Disagreement.

[Elizabeth Van Horn]

Please stop with the lies about a private abusive email.

It was quite the opposite, as you sent me threats, accusations, and 
insults.

Stop with the false accusations.

If you with no further interaction, then stop with the false 
accusations.

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Elizabeth Van Horn
LNC Region 3 Representative (IN, MI, OH, KY)



On 2019-10-28 13:18, Caryn Ann Harlos via Lnc-business wrote:
> Thank you Mr. Phillips.  Any rudeness to Ms Sexton was unintentional, 
> and
> I’ll be speaking with her privately.
> 
> I’ll not stand for the abusive tirades of EVH which are not in 
> isolation
> but in the context of her private abusive email to me and her 
> multi-year
> belligerence.  I’m presently at my doctors office due to the anxiety 
> caused
> by her attacks.
> 
> I am well aware that I can be harshly blunt.  Here is the productive 
> way to
> deal with autistic people who have that trait.
> 
> First you don’t accuse and belittle. You say something like- hey, I 
> know
> you would never want to hurt X but the way you said that was (insert
> descriptive).  It seemed you were trying to communicate X and I
> respectfully think if you approached the issue that way it would help.
> 
> Rather than badgering character attacks.  I was approached in a 
> completely
> demeaning bullying way, and I have to be my biggest advocate when it 
> comes
> to dealing with my disability.
> 
> The way EVH treats people without any self-awareness is dangerous.
> 
> I realize I can be unintentionally insulting.  I own it and it grieves 
> me
> because I never want to hurt someone. I’d take hurt to myself before 
> ever
> wounding someone like that.
> 
> The way to address is not by aggressive high-handed holier than thou
> badgering like I was subjected to.  And then the completely demeaning
> comments to seek guidance elsewhere.  What entitled nerve!
> 
> I will not stand to be treated like that.  I own my faults.  They are
> many.  And I’m sick and tired of EVH acting like she’s as pure as the
> driven snow in abject lack of self-awareness of how thoroughly 
> dislikable
> she comes across.
> 
> Every day I want to be better.  But I will not be belittled nor will I 
> be
> told that I’m lying about my disability.  When I told my doctor about 
> what
> was going on here and what was said she was shocked.
> 
> None of you would tolerate bullying people with a visible disability.  
> Stop
> tolerating it for invisible ones.
> 
> I’m not asking to be coddled.  I thank you for your frank assessment 
> Mr.
> Phillips which was done with respect to my human dignity.
>